Thoughts for Personal Development & Wellbeing (An Ongoing Series)

February 3, 2017

Transitions & Relationships: There is no doubt that we are all unique, in our personalities, experiences and world view. However, one thing we all have in common is change! We experience change in our daily lives and in our relationships. Some change is welcomed and others, are not only unwelcomed, but totally unexpected. Therefore, change…

Inner Being

October 16, 2015

In our society physical appearances hold a great deal of our attention. We spend enormous amounts of money and energy on the exterior of our being and comparatively, little attention and energy goes into our inner being. Our inner life holds the treasure of potential and lasting contentment. Spending time and energy looking at what…

Release the Grip

October 2, 2015

You know that feeling, the constant companion, of negative, grip-like thoughts and emotions that are difficult to let go. It could be regrets from the past, fears of what may lie ahead, or just pushing through in pain and unhappiness each day. These constant companions create a heavy anchor around our spirit. They keep us…

Simply Being

September 14, 2015

In life the present moment is all that is guaranteed to us! The past cannot be brought back and the future is always uncertain. How many of us linger on the conscious awareness of the present moment? Most of us live a distance away from ourselves. We allow our thoughts to abandon us in the…

Shared Dreamwork by Toko-pa: David Whyte “On Pain”

September 10, 2015

“Pain is the doorway to the here and now. Physical or emotional pain is the ultimate form of ground, saying, to each of us, in effect, there is no other place than this place, no other body than this body, no other limb or joint or pang or sharpness but this searing presence. Pain asks…

Suffering

September 6, 2015

As a therapist, I work with those suffering from emotional, physical and spiritual issues. Many hold the perspective that suffering reflects some weakness, or it’s something that must be extinguished quickly or is a sign of grave illness. In reality, through our suffering, we learn the greatest truths about ourselves and the human condition. Suffering…

Quick Sand

September 1, 2015

Life experiences can be so paradoxical. We know that change can be so difficult, even when we have asked for the change and know that it is a positive move in the right direction. But we fight to hold on and we fight to let go! A frustrating paradox is knowing that what may be…

Give Up or Give In

August 25, 2015

We always have choices in every situation. We may not like our choices, but they are available nonetheless. If you don’t exercise THOUGHTFUL choice, but instead react as you always have in the past, you have essentially given up on yourself. However, if you choose to think things through and work with your situation for…

Your House

August 19, 2015

Our inner world, much like most of our homes, have different rooms we use for different reasons. Some rooms get more use than others and those rooms we know very well. My childhood home had one “off limits” room we used only for guests. Most of us have “off limits” spaces in our inner world…

Parts of a Whole

August 13, 2015

You know how frustrating it is when you start focusing in on one or two things about yourself or someone else you despise. It can consume your entire day, week or life….right? It’s as if that ONE thing is the ONLY thing that matters or that defines you or that other person! It’s NOT! Each…